6 Ways to Love Your Husband | Featuring Rafael Painter ‘Soul of Love’ Diary – Part 4

Happy first day of February! I actually have been waiting for this day because I am so excited to share with you the beautiful images captured by Rafael the Painter. Last month’s photos were celebrating the start of a new year with the art of letting go, in case you missed it. Now, let’s talk about L O V E !!!

Lifestyle blogger Debbie Savage of To Thine Own Style Be True sharing her tips on six ways you can love your husband and featuring the work of Rafael Painter

Lifestyle blogger Debbie Savage of To Thine Own Style Be True sharing her tips on six ways you can love your husband and featuring the work of Rafael Painter

The photos for this series communicate LOVE so perfectly which is fitting for the month of February. This is part 4 of the blog series featuring the work of Rafael Guajardo, an astounding photographer and portrait artist from Orange County, CA.

Well, I could talk about this topic forever — six ways to love your husband!  Why, because it is so interesting, satisfying and purposeful. You guys know how much I love my kids, right!?!  I have this same love for my husband (well, actually it is different) but much more! It is hard to describe in words the love I feel for him.  But, I know it is real for when I see him and love on him my heart grows deeper and bigger each time.

Love is an action verb.  Just like a plant you need to nurture love in your marriage.  Just like a muscle, you must act in love in your marriage for it to work properly.

As I was praying about this message and researching for it, I came across a beautifully and poignant written article from Marriage Missions International highlighting “100 Ways You Can Love Your Husband HIS Way.”  This message touched me so much that I wanted to share with you six of my favorites and hope it inspires you too!

Six Ways to Love Your Husband

  1. Purposefully try to understand his feelings—even when you disagree with him.
  2. Try not to make sudden major changes without discussion, giving time to adjust.
  3. Don’t over commit yourself. Leave time for him.
  4. Express how much you appreciate him for working so hard to support the family.
  5. Talk in loving, not in nagging or belittling ways.
  6. Be his “help-mate” in whatever ways you sense he needs it.

I invite you to give this article a read.  It is so GOOD!  It was difficult for me to list just six as all 100 would add so much value and richness in your marriage if you were to implement.  If you are reading this and are not married then you can also use the ideas on someone you love — and if you are not dating it definitely is thought provoking because these techniques to showing your husband love can also translate into nurturing relationships of other kinds.

Happy February my sweethearts!  It is so fun to share this journey with you!  I love to hear about your joys, successes and struggles.  I love this blogging community and my tribe.  Your love and support uplifts me! Always, remember that you must learn to love yourself first (flaws and all) to love another in return.  You are GREAT in the sight of God!

For my Orange County readers — take advantage of Rafael Painter’s incredible Valentine’s Day Special!  As you can see his work is extraordinary.  He captures the ‘Soul of Love’ and it will be a cherished heirloom to last a lifetime if not more.

Lifestyle blogger Debbie Savage of To Thine Own Style Be True sharing her tips on six ways you can love your husband and featuring the work of Rafael Painter

To book a session or for additional information please contact:
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  1. miri
    February 1, 2017 / 12:19 am

    This is such a beautiful article. I like that you talk about sharing and loving your partner and understanding him. And I will remember point 4. When I come home tonight, I will tell my husband how much I appreciate everything he does.

    • February 1, 2017 / 8:26 am

      Hi Miri! Thank you so much! Oh, you should read the article I linked to. It has such juicy information. With three kids sometimes my hubby is the last to receive love. This article reminded me to always place my MAN first! xo

  2. February 1, 2017 / 2:13 am

    Wow, you guys are definitely a great couple, you guys perfect for each other. Lucky both of you. And I love your ideas on loving our husband, I should follow this for the better. I want my husband to be happy as always. Advance Happy Hearts Day! Enjoy! <3

    Hope you can drop to my blog at KatrinaIsha
    xo, Katrina

    • February 1, 2017 / 8:23 am

      Thank you so much! We are so blessed to have such fantastic husbands! xo

  3. Victoria Schneider
    February 1, 2017 / 8:50 am

    This was a really insightful posts. I really love how you shared about understanding him. So many times I feel like women want their husbands to understand them, but they forget they may not be doing it in return. Men need love and respect and change does not come unless you are working for it.
    Thank you for sharing!
    victoria |

    • February 1, 2017 / 11:25 am

      Hi Victoria! Thank you so much! I totally agree with this. I have been so prideful lately. When I stopped to realize that I need to understand him first the walls came down! xo

  4. Amanda
    February 1, 2017 / 9:58 am

    This was wonderful!!! I love your 6 tips and totally agree. Thank you for sharing your love, love for your kids, hubby, and all of us!!

    • February 1, 2017 / 11:31 am

      Hi Amanda! Thank you so much! We need to do a double date STAT! xo

  5. February 1, 2017 / 10:45 am

    I need to practice #2, not doing anything sudden without giving him time to adjust and #4 better – praising him for working s hard!

    • February 1, 2017 / 11:32 am

      Hi Sarah! I am so happy you found my blog post inspiring! Yes, I needed to learn #2 much better! I am so spastic that I make decisions so suddenly and I need to make sure we are on the same page! xo

  6. Pentené
    February 1, 2017 / 11:04 am

    Great info! I Iove the love you have for your husband and obviously he shares the same love for you. Beautiful! Keep God, love and family first always. Xoxo

  7. February 1, 2017 / 12:48 pm

    I’m a newlywed here and think these are great tips to remember!

    • February 1, 2017 / 2:54 pm

      Thank you so much! Yay! When is your wedding date? xo

  8. February 1, 2017 / 1:05 pm

    Such a romantic shoot! Love what you’re wearing too 🙂

  9. February 1, 2017 / 2:24 pm

    Wow, thank you for sharing! And such beautiful photos, too! I’m not married yet, but this post definitely gives me a leg up in understand how to have the marriage I want–one full of love. Great post!

    • February 1, 2017 / 2:58 pm

      Hi Alondrea! Thank you for leaving a sweet message and finding value in this post — it means so much to me for you to leave words of support! xo

  10. koma
    February 1, 2017 / 2:55 pm

    #1 and #5 for sure! Such a great piece and a great reminder. I am not married but it still applies to my relationship. Also, you pictures came out stunning Debbie!

    • February 1, 2017 / 3:04 pm

      Hi Komal! Thank you so much! Aww…it makes me so happy that this special post touches you! xo

  11. February 1, 2017 / 2:56 pm

    Happy February! ( i hit submit before i was done )

  12. February 1, 2017 / 5:01 pm

    Debbie! This is a really beautiful read and so inspiring! I know I am single at this point but l will have to keep these good points in the back of my mind when that time comes for me when I am in a relationship:) I can see you and your husband are so happy together and have so much love❤️ God Bless! xo

  13. February 2, 2017 / 3:12 am

    Amazing tips dear! Love the photos,so cute!!

  14. February 2, 2017 / 2:03 pm

    Such a good article! You can never have too many good ideas about maintaining the love through time! As a soon to be newlywed I appreciate things like this because I’m so aware that it’ll be necessary to put in extra effort, and its well worth it!
    xo, jess

  15. February 2, 2017 / 2:12 pm

    great tips! It is sad to see so many women leave the absolute WORST of themselves left for their husbands. (ex: being grumpy after a long day, etc)

  16. Christianne
    February 2, 2017 / 9:32 pm

    This is so inspiring my dear! I really love the article and also the photos.
    ‘Xo, Christianne

  17. February 2, 2017 / 11:33 pm

    Such a great article! You two are so adorable together. I remember years ago talking with you and you saying how much you loved that your husband made you feel confident. That stuck with me years later.

  18. February 6, 2017 / 1:41 pm

    You look absolutely beautiful darling,Debbie! You and your husband make a beautiful couple! Love reading this post! So inspiring!!! Thank you for the inspiration! #relationshipgoals Thank you for sharing!!! Much love, Len.

  19. February 7, 2017 / 8:57 pm

    Wow those couple photos look incredible and you make such a loving wife! I tend to nag at mine – guess it’s time I stop doing that *LOL
    Thanks so much for sharing – will definitely read the longer version on 100 ways to love my hubs more 😉

    xx Aldora

  20. February 12, 2017 / 6:58 pm

    Thanks so much for sharing. I think these tips were all really great. You definitely put a lot of thought into this and it’s nice to see what helps couples work and what areas others can look at in helping them. Xoxo

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